Of course, given the anonymity that Reddit provides its users, calling all the stories posted in the sub “true” is a bit disingenuous.
On a daily basis, users post elaborate, fantastical stories of creepy encounters, most of which are likely made up.
The story of Jacqueline Ades is among the most grotesque tales ever posted to r/LetsNotMeet. And unfortunately, it is confirmed to be true.
The Story of Jacqueline Ades: A Cautionary Tale
Jacqueline Claire Ades, 33, met an unidentified CEO on the millionaire matchmaking app, Luxy. They went on one date and parted ways before the end of the night. That could've been it.
— New York Post (@nypost) January 30, 2019
But it was just the start of a nightmare that would drag on for months. https://t.co/lZwkcTr8UC pic.twitter.com/NNbbsicmmA
According to recent research, people on average spend 397 minutes online per day. Consequently, it is only natural that our dating lives have become entangled with the internet, as evidenced by the prevalence of dating app Tinder, which currently boasts 75 million active users.
While apps like Tinder make dating an accessible pastime in our hustle-and-bustle world, its unfortunate downside is the simple fact that it is difficult to fully vet the people we meet online.
On a dating app, Jacqueline Ades may have presented herself as harmless. But behind the facade of normalcy was something truly dark.
Jacqueline Ades’s Unhealthy Obsession
In 2019, a Reddit user with the screen-name u/LNMthrowaway9 posted the following to r/LetsNotMeet, “I have reached out to the mods with evidence to verify this story… I know this story seems completely ridiculous, but the girl I experienced this with is actually insane… A lot of people may have heard about this girl. She was all over the news after she stalked a guy, bombarded him with 65,000 texts, and broke into his house all over one date. We met shortly after she went on that date with him, and we were friends for a while before she broke into his house…”
The girl being referred to in this post is Jacqueline Ades, who did indeed make headlines for her obsessive behavior.
Of course, during the beginning stages of their friendship, u/LNMthrowaway9—who from here onward will be referred to simply as OP (original poster)—had no idea he was communicating with toxicity embodied.
“I stopped having any sort of non-platonic feelings after she started to talk a lot about a guy she had met on some dating website. Apparently, he was her soulmate, and she had somehow been guided to him by following her birth calendar. I would only later come to know that they had only been on one date, and he never spoke to her again…”
OP goes on to say that his friend confided in him that she would be moving to South America, pursuing this supposed “soulmate,” who had recently moved.
Jacqueline Ades Begins to Display Strange Behaviors
The man told police Jacqueline Ades continued to text him after the date, despite telling her he didn't want to see or hear from her again. He later called police when he found Ades parked outside his house in July 2017. https://t.co/9oIyRUBxnc
— IndyStar (@indystar) January 6, 2019
Eventually, OP himself was being bombarded with messages from Jacqueline: “She was sending dozens of texts at a time, and they were all over the place,” he continues.
“Several of them had to do with her soulmate, and how she was still following him, even though he had called the police and blocked her… She asked me if I was still living at [my address], which really freaked me out because I had never given her my address…”
“I asked her to leave me alone and told her we couldn’t be friends anymore, unless she took some steps to get better.”
From here onward, OP’s situation went from creepy to downright terrifying. After blocking Jacqueline number and the four numbers she used to contact him afterwards, he saw her across the street from his apartment.
“I texted a mutual friend… He told me she had lost it… Apparently, she had gone back on the dating site where she met her “soulmate” and found someone who looked just like him in my city…”
OP Takes Action Against Jacqueline Ades
OP used the TextFree app to contact Jacqueline; he told her to leave him alone and threatened to call the police if this demand was not met.
At this point, he was deeply afraid for his safety, simultaneously blaming himself for the situation, as during their friendship, her mental instability became obvious to him, yet he continued to communicate with her.
Clearly, OP was not doing well. Thankfully, however, he managed to find a new job in a different city and was able to move away, seemingly undetected by Jacqueline.
He continues his story, saying that he “didn’t hear from her again. I later found out the reason why was that a couple of months later, she had once again gone to Arizona and had been arrested for breaking into her ‘soulmate’s’ house and using the bathtub. They found a large knife in her car…”
The Real Jacqueline Ades
Realistically, stories posted on r/LetsNotMeet are either outright fabrications or greatly exaggerated.
However, the opposite is true for the story of Jacqueline Ades: OP was actually holding back on the extent of her instability.
She had not sent ~65,000 texts to her “soulmate”. It was ~159,000 texts. (This equates to roughly 523 texts every day for 10 months.)
Jacqueline had met an affluent CEO on an app called Luxy, self-described as an “elite and millionaire dating site,” whose memberships cost up to $1,000 per three months.
After going on a single date with this unnamed man, she spammed him with messages, resulting in her being blocked.
She found other means to contact him (such as the TextFree app), and soon enough, she even discovered where he lived.
Her texts ranged from incoherent, but innocuous, ramblings about her day to expressions of her desire to “bathe in [his] bl**d” and “make sushi out of [his] k**neys.”
It was these elaborate death threats that led to his contacting the authorities.
What Happened to Jacqueline Ades?
DETAILS: Jacqueline Ades allegedly sent the victim 65,000 text messages after he said he didn't want to see her anymore: https://t.co/MwuQmwD614 #abc15 pic.twitter.com/mIN80DhxHu
— ABC15 Arizona (@abc15) May 9, 2018
After missing her court appearances, Jacqueline was taken into custody. To anyone perusing her interrogation videos, her unfortunate mental condition is made apparent.
Her vehement belief in numerology and the supposed spiritual bond with the man she was harassing caused authorities to deem her mentally unfit for trial.
She was placed in a 21-month mental restoration program, after which she would stand trial. In 2020, charges against her were dropped, though she was barred from ever contacting the CEO again.
Unfortunately, it seems that Jacqueline Ades has since passed away, though details regarding her passing are spotty at best.
Her story is a reminder of two things: that we must be cautious when meeting people online, as well as the fact that mental health conditions are a very real thing, and stigmas against them must be eliminated before treatment can be made readily available.
